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If you feel tired and frazzled as a mom, you’re not alone. Being a mom can be one of the most challenging roles you will ever have. Of course, that doesn’t mean there aren’t things you can do to reduce some of the stress and anxiousness you experience. Here are some strategies that you can apply that I have found to be effective for reducing stress and preventing mom burnout.
The one true and inevitable thing about being a mom is that you WILL make mistakes. Yes, it can feel as if you need to be bulletproof when it comes to raising kids, especially to be as consistent as you would like. However, no one can be like that all the time, and that is OK.
Sometimes as a mom, we just need to apologize, forgive ourselves, and get back on track. In fact, you will be teaching your kids a precious lesson about self-compassion and being human if you can admit when you are wrong or that you have made a mistake. Of course, you will make your own life a lot easier as well because you won’t be under so much pressure to be perfect all the time. This being something that can easily drive you to the brink of insanity very quickly as a mom because life with children is unpredictable, to say the least.
In times like this, you are also teaching your kids that things happen and it’s not the end of the world when they do. Being flexible in situations is an important life skill to learn early on. Besides, making mistakes should be viewed as something you can learn & grow from. So make sure to be a role model for your kids in these types of situations.
Give yourself a break (in several ways!)
Next, if you have a hard task in front of you, it makes sense to take regular breaks in which to rest or recharge. Likewise, we should view motherhood in the same way. It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking we have to be doing something for the good of the family every minute of every day.
Scheduling fun, regular tasks & activities into your schedule is an important way to practice some self-care, which is great for reducing stress. The good news is that there is a myriad of things to choose from that will provide you with some much needed me time. For instance, you may fancy taking a spin around the dance floor with lessons like the ones offered by Arthur Murray. Or maybe sign up for a cooking class at your local college. As well as creative classes, you may even enjoy volunteering your time with a charity. Although, you should be careful of emotional burnout for the latter choice!
Along the same lines, feeling like we need to be in charge all the time can not only be exhausting for us, but it can be oppressive for our children as well. Living in a constant state of control makes it much harder to let go and allow our kids to live their own lives and learn from their mistakes. With that in mind, it is also imperative to ensure that we share parenting & household responsibilities with our spouse. No parent deserves to get burned out!
Ignore the opinion of others
Finally, when it comes to preventing mom burnout and reducing stress, once of the most constructive things you can do is to ignore others’ opinions of how you parent or run your household. Of course, people will always have them, including your parents, your in-laws, your friends, and the lady down the street! But let me remind you that on a daily basis you keep your kids alive, fed, happy (unless you had to use the word “no”, but I’ll explain why this is a good parenting skill in another post), and most of all LOVED ♥
So the lesson is that trying to please everybody when you’re a mom is a sure-fire way to induce mom burnout and run yourself into the ground. Instead, learn to practice self-compassion and refrain from trying to control everything in order to be perfect. Extend yourself grace and time in your routine to recharge. Make sure to also cut out the external chatter and listen to your internal compass when it comes to being a mom instead. I promise that following these tips can help prevent the feeling of mom burnout and reduce stress no matter how challenging family life & parenting gets.
➵ As a mom, what do you find is the hardest responsibility to let go of and let be imperfect? Let me know in the comments because I would love to hear from you